Positive Parenting Techniques - A small step towards positive changes

Parenting is not learnt in institutions rather we learn it by experience, observation and feelings. It does not have any specific specific set of rules; yet most of us go through the stages of parenting. As a parent we give our children a good start in life - we nurture, protect, and guide them. Parenting is a process that prepares our child for independence. As our child grows and develops, there are many things we can do to help our child. And here the importance of positive parenting comes in place. 

When we talk about positive parenting technique then an obvious question automatically comes to our mind....What is it all about? This parenting technique focuses on nurturing good behaviour, creating mutual trust between children and parents instead of punishing, scolding and giving negative comments to our children.

The next question comes to our mind....Why should we do it? The answer is simple, promoting healthy behaviour, this will make our children feel more capable, secure and connected. 

Here are some tips...

We can practice this effective technique for kids of any age. 

Setting boundaries in a positive way - Working together on creating important boundaries and rules that work for both, instead of issuing strict order is the first step towards positive parenting. 

Having realistic expectations - All children misbehave at times, and it is inevitable that we'll have some discipline challenges. Trying to be the perfect parent and expecting the perfectly behaved kid can set ourselves up for frustration and stressed. 

We should not forget to give our children positive attention - Punishing a child is not as effective as using praise and rewards. Rather than focusing on weaknesses, we should find ways to assist our children in developing to their full potential. When encouraged, children will acquire talents to compensate for any deficiencies.

We should guide our children to their mistakes and weaknesses - Punishing a child is not as effective as using praise and rewards. Rather than focusing on weaknesses, find ways to assist your child in developing to their full potential. When encouraged, children will acquire talents to compensate for any deficiencies.

Avoiding negative emotional reactions to our child - If our children has problems with control, negative responses—like anger, sarcasm and ridicule—will only make them feel worse. We should use short and mild verbal phrases/acronyms to remind our children to focus. We must teach them the difference between reaction and response.

Giving our children lots of nurturing and physical attention - It seems simple, but children like hugs, cuddles and holding hands. We must show them the affection they desire. If they aren’t overly affectionate, that’s okay. Knowing how our child likes to be nurtured and comforted is a sign of good parenting. 

We should not ever give up on our child - All of our children’s problems can be worked through with humor, goodwill and perseverance. With proper parental support, even the most troublesome children can become amazing people.

And the last but not the least....

We should not forget to take care of ourselves - It is difficult to be a calm, relaxed parent if we are stressed, feeling anxious or down. We should try to find time every day—or at least once a week—to let ourselves unwind or do something that we enjoy. I know as parents it is difficult to do, but give ourselves permission to take time for ourselves. It makes a difference.

Happy Parenting !!

Idea and Written by

Sreyoskar Saha

PRT/Banimandir Railway H.S. School

Siliguri Junction